Letters to Rob

Tomorrow, it will be six years since my beautiful son, Rob passed away. I write him a letter each year. It helps me to process his death, and I pray that somehow he is able to receive it. I hope that it can also help others who might be experiencing the same pain. Robert Mason Lofink 02/21/96 – 09/14/14 Dear Robert, I can still hear the screams coming from Meaghan and Leah. I can still see myself standing in your … Read More

Most people know that I write Rob a letter each year on his birthday. Tomorrow is his birthday, and he would have turned 25. For me, he is still very much present, has accomplished so much, and has helped countless people since his death. It is easier for me to share this letter the day before his birthday… Dear Robert, Happy Birthday! Today you would have turned 25. Just saying that out loud is heartbreaking. Twenty-five! Twenty-five should be the … Read More

Merry Christmas Rob and Kristin, As your mom and I wake up today without you both, we will hold on to all of the beautiful gifts of life that you each give every day of the year. Reclaiming My Life and Keeping My Serenity offer love, safety, hope and a fresh start to a life that each woman deserves. Robert and Kristin’s pictures hang by the front doors as reminders of what was lost and why these houses were started. … Read More

Tomorrow is Rob ‘s birthday. He would have been 24 years old. Every year, I write him a letter… To my beautiful son… Happy 24th Birthday Rob. Today we celebrate you and we mourn you. I find myself wondering, where would you be and who would you be? I have seen a lot of your friends graduate college, start careers and even get engaged. All of the milestones that we will never get to see with you. I struggle to … Read More

Tomorrow it will be five years since Rob died. Each year, I write Rob a letter. I share my letters in hopes of healing, for me and for others who are grieving. I have also included a poem that I wrote trying to understand what Rob, and others struggling with addiction, might be feeling…….. Dear Rob, How can it be that five years have passed? Time stands still in so many ways, and life came to an abrupt stop on … Read More

Dear Rob, Happy Birthday. This year you would have been 23 year’s old. It marks the 5th birthday that we celebrate without you. As I always say…. in some ways it gets harder with each passing year because it is that much longer since I have seen you. I think about your last day here; we spent the day together at Leah’s cross country meet. You promised to buy your sister her favorite Michael Kor’s watch if she won for … Read More

Rob’s room has remained the same since he died. His shirts still hang in his closet, along with his ties and cool belts, and his dresser drawers are still filled with the rest of his clothes. Sometimes I still don’t know how to live without him or who I am without him, however; I do know that I’m a survivor. Last night I was able to pass on some of Rob’s clothes to a special young man… Sean. Thank you for … Read More

I made a promise to share my journey of grief. Tomorrow it will be four years since I lost my beautiful son Rob. I miss him more than my words can ever express….. Dear Robert, It has been four years. It still feels like yesterday, and at the same time, it feels like forever. People probably think that it gets easier over time; however, the longer I go without seeing you, the more I miss you. Time certainly does not … Read More